The pandemic puts a damper on everything. Even sex. You’re not alone.

For lots of couples it was novel to spend those early, socially distant days and weeks, close and cuddled in. You may have genuinely relished the fact that you had all the time you wanted to enjoy and explore each other.

Low desire is the most common sexual dysfunction complaint that women have. Why is that? In large part, it’s due to the way that we believe sexual desire functions. We’ve been conditioned to believe that desire and our sexual response cycle is linear, meaning that desire comes first, then arousal, then orgasm, followed by the resolution or baseline phase. Then repeat. This is the model that Master’s and Johnson proposed originally in 1966 and again 1979. The Masters and Johnson sexual response cycle describes what is typical for approximately 75% of cis-gender heterosexual men.

While all of my counseling services are influenced and informed by attachment theories, cognitive-behavioral approaches, sexual health, trauma, and feminism as well as mindfulness and somatic psychotherapy, for some people, making the connection between feminism and counseling isn’t intuitive.

In a just released position statement, the World Psychiatric Association stated that sexual orientation is innate, and calls for psychiatrists to take responsibility for advocating to reduce social inequality that is related to gender expression and sexual orientation.